Warning: Blogging N00b

There are a few things I've been reminded of in the past 12 hours:
1. Waking up at 5:30 AM is much harder when it's raining outside
2. When you put a story out there on the internets, be sure that you fully tie the bow on the end of it
3. K & I have the most awesome, supportive, incredible friends & family in the world. Thank you!!!

We've gotten so much feedback on the blog & the posts already. I don't want this to become all about family drama, but this whole "creating a family" thing isn't easy and I want to recognize that and be true to it. In that spirit, I have a few clarifications I need to make...

K and I are still getting married. That was *never* a question. When we talked about moving out, it was to take a step back and get some perspective. We both know that change is not easy for kids, and they sometimes adapt much more slowly than adults. While dating a year & then getting married is perfectly normal for most couples, kids need more time to adjust than that and we've worked hard to give them their time. Neither one of us believes that forcing the kids will make our situation better or easier.

Having said all of that, we've decided that K & the kids moving out isn't the right next step. The kids clearly didn't want that, and we didn't really want it either. We have taken a step back and thought about how to manage our every day dealings with the kids. Right now, we're thinking carefully about the battles we choose to fight. K & A will be taking to the kids about this situation together (we're still working out whether or not I'll be there) to make sure the kids are giving both of them a consistent message.

This isn't something that's resolved; it's a work in progress. Our hope is that S will be ready to accept this by next March. In the meantime, though, planning is continuing and we're very, very happy to be together. Many couples never have to face anything truly difficult or hard before they get married, K and I have gone through this - and we know that we're stronger together. That's a great feeling to have.